Tips For Having Anal Sex For The First Time

Tips For Having Anal Sex For The First Time
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Tips For Having Anal Sex For The First Time

An estimated quarter of heterosexual couples have had anal sex.

There are the 3 little words thousands of lonely people want to hear. Words that mean a great deal of care, mutual trust and comfort. Words that could change your sex life forever: ‘Let’s have anal.’

Sexperts say one in four heterosexual couples have had anal sex, thus making it the most popular of sexual taboos. Yet while the majority of people are the very least interested enough to try it, few do it in the right way. What is the result? They get a negative experience and feelings and never try it again.

If you are going to enjoy anal sex, you need to have some thoughts of what to do, and to be able to communicate with your sexual partner. Sure, to tell the truth talking frankly about sex can be rather tough. Tristan Taormino, the author of The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex For Women says that people’s butts carry with them so much cultural baggage. “The majority of people are taught at a young age that our asses are dirty, that they shouldn’t be shared with others, that they aren’t for pleasure – all of which are wrong.”

Despite that (or maybe thanks to it), the idea of anal sex is frequently a turn-on. Guys like the promise of friction and tightness, and both sexual partners may appreciate the allure of original physical feelings together with domination/submission. Consider those qualities make it deviant? Perhaps so, but they also make it really intimate. As porn star Jenna Jameson said of anal sex in her autobiography (2004) that she has only given that up to 3 guys, all of whom she really loved. Having anal sex on camera would be compromising her.

There is no right way to start investigating, but it’s maybe wise to begin with something less ambitious than a penis. Michael and Kate (Names in this story have been changed) had been in a relationship for 4 months when he put his hand on her ass during sex. “I understood, I really wanted to put my finger in her butt, but I wasn’t sure because we’d never done that before,” told Michael, a 34-year-old physicist from San Francisco. “Without saying anything, she took my hand and put it there for me. It was fantastic.”

Later, in the middle of unusually intense sex, an overzealous Michael goaled himself a little too far south. He understood his mistake and pulled away, but Kate pulled him back. They kept on having their first-time, undiscussed anal sex without any lube and they liked it. Kate, 32, a lawyer, says she has since found out that wasn’t a proper way to have anal sex. But that night she had the most serious orgasm in her life. It was one of the sexiest things they could both do, but they definitely had to be in the mood. Somebody couldn’t just make it for you.
Beyond of MTV shows and ‘family’ sitcoms, the majority of people don’t want to speak about their asses – especially with their sexual partners. Anyway, it doesn’t need to be a face-reddening thing. Taomino says, in case you and your sexual partner talk frankly and directly about sex, then be open and direct about your anal wishes. In case you’re doubt about how your sexual partner may answer, bring it up in an indirect way.

If you are going to try it, start very slowly. The majority of couples agree that anal sex only works when both partners are very turned on, so spend time arousing each other whatever gets you going – blowjob, vaginal sex etc. And keep in mind what mom told you: Anything you put in your ass should be richly covered with a heavy water-based lube like Maximus or Astroglide Gel.
That cannot be stressed enough. Unlike the pussy and much like the internal combustion engine, butt isn’t self-lubricating. When lubed insufficiently, you are susceptible to little internal tears, which can lead to infection and pain, and encourage the spread of STDs. Anyway that doesn’t mean anal sex is inherently more dangerous. As long as you wear a condom and there is enough lube, you will be reasonably safe. To prevent nasty bacterial infections, keep in mind that it’s like stroking a porcupine: You can go front to back and never back to front.

Sex toys can help the experience. Silicone is the best material for vibrators, dildos and ass plugs as it is nonporous and easy-to-clean. A flared base will help to avoid an awkward traveling to the ER for extraction.

Nancy, 38, said they began with a little ass plug they purchased on the Internet. She convinced her husband – yes, he was the wary one – to have anal sex. Then they moved on to sex, and it was absolutely marvelous. She had to have it in a place where nobody else was around while she was worried about people hearing her – she was always a lot louder.
There is no sex position that is perfect for anal sex, but the receiver should be in control. Missionary is okay; girl-on-top lets her control the depth of penetration; and spooning lets the guy an ideal angle. Doggy style position gives the opportunity to stimulate the G-spot, with a girl either on all fours or with her head on the bed and ass in the air. To make sure the guy mustn’t thrust too deep, he need to enter, stop and wait for her to get used to the feeling. Or is there the other way around?

Taormino says that ass is the most democratic part of the body, as we all have one. ‘What a lot of guys don’t understand is just how good it can feel for them, while the prostate gland can be directly stimulated. Actually, every guy should get ass fucked at least once before he passes away.’ Perhaps, this isn’t a thought everybody is completely comfortable with, but turnabout is fair anal game.


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