In case you want to try threesome for the first time, be ready to think about all your options. Do you dream about having a threesome? You aren’t alone in your desire! Threesomes are by far the most frequent sexual desire for both guys and girls of all sexual orientations. But while the dream of a threesome might be really arousing, the reality can turn a little trickier.

At popular request, we have put together the ultimate guide to threesomes, developed to help you avoid emotional fallout and damage to your real relationship. Anyway, no pleasure is worth months of drama. Find out if a threesome is right for you, how to plan it and how to strengthen your couple in the process. Or you may discover that threesome is better to keep as a hot fantasy and never try it in reality.

Threesome is hot. Why?

There isn’t much of mystery to it: if sex with one person is admirable, why not double the satisfaction? Lots of people dreamy about the thrill of adding a third person to a long term relationship, but novelty alone is actually not of the threesome fantasy. Threesomes are much about the experience of multiply sexual partners at once. Here is the list of the most general reasons the threesome is such a popular sexual desire:

-          Boundless variety: Three mouths, three set of genitals and six hands promise a boundless variety of combinations. Particular combinations depend on the genitals involved into the process and the boundaries of each certain threesome. Lots of people have specific combinations that are thrilling for them.

-          More good things: Are you fond of tits? What about four at a time? Do you like the sensation of hard muscular arms? Try being surrounded by guy flesh! Lots of people like the notion of doubling their satisfaction with multiples of a body part they’re fond of.

-          Dreaming to be doubled down: In case having intercourse with one hot sexual partner is confirmation of your sensuality and desirability, being sexual with two partners can make you feel like a sex goddess/god. It can be quite thrilling to turn or not one but two lovers!

-           Seeing your partner anew: Threesomes make it possible for you to see your partner with somebody else, and this inspires you to take a step back and witness your sexual partner with fresh view. A lot of couples report seeing their lover with all new appreciation and heightened desire. Threesome isn’t a solution for a relationship that has gone boring, but it can reinvigorate a successful and complacent relationship and renew your feelings for one another. (Though threesome can also ruin your relationship, so it’s necessary to be on the same page as your sexual partner.)

-          Same gender experience: For lots of people, a threesome is a very safe way to investigate what it is like to share erotic energy with somebody of the same gender (or opposite gender if you are mostly gay!) For the majority of heterosexual people, a threesome is the first place they experience same-gender erotic contact. This can be liberating and thrilling. Lots of people who suppose they won’t have much charge with a same-gender sexual partner find out that there is in fact a lot of potential for satisfaction where before they had seen none.

How to make a threesome successful:

Bad threesome experience can lead to regret and resent. Good threesomes can be completely amazing. Here is how to have a successful threesome and avoid any hurt feelings.

-          Threeway erotic energy: A good threesome is something so much more than usual sex with two persons; it builds up a triangle formation of erotic energy, amplifying every part of the experience. A successful threesome isn’t ‘first you, then the other,’ it’s all three persons engaging together, pooling their three sources of erotic energy into a general experience. When it works, it can be really powerful, and an experience that you cannot achieve any other way. The caveat: when the energy isn’t streaming between all three sexual partners, the connection between any two is compromised. In case two lovers on the bed consumed with one another and the third is watching it, feeling left out, the next experience will be less than the two persons could create alone. As a common guideline: in case you’re going to enjoy a threesome, make sure to include the participation of all the three partners. Go to great lengths to make sure nobody feels ‘left out.’

 -          Wise choice of the partners: Lots of people wonder if they should have a threesome with a stranger or a friend. There’re advantages and disadvantages to both. Strange people give less risk for long term emotional fallout, but higher risk for personal safety. Involving a friend into a threesome is more emotionally charged, but can feel safer. Moreover, if it’s successful, you may be able to repeat the fun over the years. Don’t start a threesome involving your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend or your best friend. The emotional risks are far too great. For the majority of people, the best choice is somebody you know and trust but who doesn’t have much power in your life.

 -          Be admired by everybody involved: Be sure everybody involved is erotically admired by everybody else in the threesome. This is really important if sexual orientation is an issue. The same-gender contact in any given threesome can range from very little physical contact to full penetration and lovemaking. But the ‘no-touch between us men; we’re just here for the girl’ threesomes tend to fail – in case you’re so invested in not touching somebody, you perhaps shouldn’t do a threesome together. The success of your threesome depends on your attitude, so make sure everybody has an open mind and heart before start. Discuss all of this beforehand so expectations are clear and boundaries are set before you begin.

 -          Expand your understanding of sex: It can be really thrilling to try a threesome that doesn’t include sex. You don’t have to go all the way to have fun of all the advantages of a threesome. Consider your hands to give one another satisfaction is both safe and hot. You can still investigate the intense sensations and erotic potential of three nude people in bed together, but without all the emotional and physical risk of sex. This ‘starter’ threesome can be a nice way to investigate at first, and in case it works for you emotionally and physically, you can always try intercourse next time.

 -          Keep it safe: safe intercourse is always important, but in case you’re bringing a new sexual partner into a settled relationship, you’ll want to refresh your commitment to safe sex practices. You will not be able to relax and enjoy yourself in case you’re worried about catching any disease or an unwanted pregnancy. Make sure all three of sexual partners are on the same page about safe sex, and purchase more condoms, gloves and dams: you may go through a lot during a successful threesome.

Step by step from fantasy to reality

So will you have a threesome or just keep dreaming about it? For lots of people, the fantasy of a threesome is enough. Other persons keep threesomes an intense desire, and want to try it in reality. Only you and your sexual partner can determine if this is better leave a fantasy, or if you want to get experience of it. Here is a number of little steps you can take to investigate your threesome desire!

-          Read threesome erotica and find out what makes you aroused. Share your favorite passages with your sexual partner and ask him or her to share their favorite moments with you.

-          Dream about threesomes during masturbation. Let yourself the possibility to investigate a level of sexual acts, erotic energies and positions that turn you on. Switch up the characters and see what happens.

-          Investigate your desire. Share this article and read some other guides on Threesomes with your sexual partner, and then talk about it over a delicious dinner. Be ready to discuss every element of the threesome, and commit to being both sincere and open-minded.

-          Dream about threesomes during sex with your partner. Imagine a third lover in bed with you – what would they be doing? How would they complement the admiration you’re producing with your sexual partner?

-          Speak about third person while having intercourse with your lover. Share the fantasy with them. Describe the picture together; what would you like this third lover to do with you?

-          Add a sex toy during sex with your sexual partner. Dream about the sex toy being a third person’s penis. You can use a vibrator or a dildo, for instance, to create sensations of double penetration, or being penetrated while you go down on your sexual partner.

-          Use online chats or video chats. Thus you can include a third person in your sex virtually. Let them watch you and your sexual partner, talk dirty to you, or tell you what they would do with you. This is the lowest risk way of including a live third lover in your intercourse.

-          Get a third lover into your bedroom. There should be an agreement that they will touch and kiss or whatever you want but not make physical contact with either you or your sexual partner. Or have a threesome where you exchange much of erotic touch but choose not to have sex. Sex without penetration is safer emotionally and physically.

-          Have a real threesome! Set desirable boundaries to feel protected and safe, both physically and emotionally. Use safe sex protocol and common sense to protect you and your sexual partner, including a third person. Then you can start. Promise yourself to fully enjoy the process, and then discuss clearly after it’s done to find out what worked, what could have been better, and if the next time is possible.

If you follow these steps, you will realize if having a threesome is right for you. If you really have a threesome, you’ll be able to build up the erotic experience you want while avoiding the emotional pitfalls. Threesomes can be memorable, arousing and hot when they’re successful. But keep in mind, that for lots of people, the threesome is best as a desire alone.

It’s up to you to know if you’re ready to take the threesome! In case you have any questions, you can surf the net for looking for more information about safe threesomes. No matter if you keep it as a hot fantasy or take the risk and do it, enjoy investigating the thrilling erotic experience of a threesome!