One of the greatest misbeliefs people have in relationships is that your sexual partner is going to know your body better than you know it yourself. However on the contrary, understanding your own body and the way it functions sexually, including what feels good to you and how to reach an orgasm, is what makes for better, more intimate intercourse with your sexual partner. That’s one of the lots of reasons why self-pleasure – especially mutual one – can help create better intimacy in a marriage or relationship, both emotional and sexual.  

For lots of girls who are in a marriage or in long-term relationships, the frustration of not having an orgasm during sex or even foreplay can lead to a lack of enjoyment and intimacy troubles in the relationship. The best way to find out how to have an orgasm is to masturbate on your own and see what feels great. For some girls, this can alter the sexual intimacy in a relationship in a dramatic way. When a girl can reach an orgasm with her sexual partner, she releases oxytocin, a hormone responsible for feelings of bonding and love, which has been coined ‘the hormone of love.’ For guys, solo masturbation can be a way of helping with troubles including erectile dysfunction, stress release and learning new ways on how to prolong orgasm. 

Once both sexual partners have spent time getting to know their own bodies, they can move on to mutual masturbation, which is a great way to help one of the partners to realize and learn what turns his sweetheart on – and it can turn them both on as well. This can be very stimulating, sexy and erotic, and a fun way to add some spice to the boring relationship. The best way to begin masturbating mutually is to take turns reaching orgasms, really paying attention to your sexual partner’s turns-on and techniques. You can also do it at the same time, which can evolve into oral fun or some other form of satisfying each other.

As relationships move forward, our minds and bodies alter. What may have brought an individual to orgasm in their twenties may be different from what turns that same individual on their forties. Masturbation and discovering new ways to stimulate yourself and then displaying that to your sexual partner – on a regular basis – can keep the sex intimate, sizzling hot and passionate.